WRITEEN BY SAMUEL IJILUSI
Everyone gets motivated by one thing or the other. I’ve come to realize
that there are words or phrases that we either hear or read that hits
our mind and causes us to react with physical gesticulation or autonomic
reaction. Of course the most common is “Hmmmmmmm!!!”.
Few weeks ago during my lunch period at work, I continued with this book
written by Mrs.Tokunbo Fasoro that has been chapter-sized to different
nuggets. I got to this particular nugget and I found my “Hmmmm!!!”
moment. It was about baggage and she illustrated with a story about a
footballer who became ineffective on the field of play due to
alcoholism. Thereafter, I said to myself, “Samuel, deal with your
baggage”. Every one might “Hmmm!” at some words they hear or read and
yet do nothing about it, but as for me, it was a turning point.
Baggage is simply weight that has no use but one still go around with
them. There are numerous and countless baggage items every person
carries around in life. The king hit from this book unveiled my eyes to
see my baggage.
Listed are some of the baggage’s that need to be ditched:
- Low self-esteem : I have heard many times that we are unique despite
being millions on earth, but the feeling I get when in gatherings of
high class individuals, is like the entire wind in the surroundings have
been directed towards my feet. I’d be walking as though I might fall
soon, funny right? That is low self-esteem baggage and it is
accompanied with shallow thoughts, fear and isolation. Confidence is
more attractive than fright. I dealt with this by re-engineering my
thoughts and believing more in myself. Identify the negative beliefs you
have about yourself and dress the way you want to be addressed.
- Non-constructive relationships: Mrs. Fasoro said, “He who has your
ears has your head”. This struck me. I realized, I couldn’t rise beyond
the level of my company. I was intentional about this. Recruit who you
spend more of my time with and note this, the way they think and speak
will rub off on you. You are the average of the five people you spend
the most time with. Your association will influence the result you get
in life, select them carefully.
- Poor time utilization: Time is an asset and it’s the greatest
resource. You have to be able to control how you spend your time because
you are the boss of your time. I spent time arguing over football
stars, but, trying to win an argument consumes my time and
energy…….Guess what? You don’t get paid. You have to highlight
unprofitable activities on your schedule and trash them. Replace with
new ones, such as, reading, thinking etc. It’s possible to learn every
hour of the day. Spend time on social media platforms you can learn from
instead of chatting all day. You can be the master of your own time,
it’s your choice to either waste it or invest it.
- Emotional baggage: Happiness and sadness are attached to our emotions
and they have a role to play when it comes to pursuing our dreams. I had
an interview with a popular bank sometime ago and I got to the final
level of the interview. I had been in the process for a week, and just a
simple question from the head of HR denied me the job, I was so hurt not
for days, but months. This feeling of failure is a kind of emotional
baggage. Lost opportunity doesn’t mean it’s the last opportunity. Don’t
be derailed by a great chance you missed to achieve your goal. Don’t
live in the hurt of the past in the present, forgive yourself, set a new
goal and move ahead.
Many people might have read about baggage in her book; ‘Walking your way
into career success.’ It hit me like a rock and I knew all I had to shed
off in my life are these heaps of baggage. Let me pluralize it myself,
‘baggages’. To get to the place of your dream, you must deal with the