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9 Good Questions To Ask In An Interview


Interviews aren’t just about giving the right answers—they’re about asking the right questions. John Kador, Monster contributor The landscape for job seekers today can be difficult. In other words, if you want a job today, the hard work starts when you prepare for the interview. That means not just nailing the interview questions you are asked, but actually asking the kinds of questions designed to make the interviewer sit up and take notice. It’s no longer enough to be qualified. If you want to stand out in today’s job market you have to show your excellence by asking excellent questions. These questions could also help you avoid a bad boss before it’s too late. Don’t squander an opportunity to shine by asking mundane questions the interviewer has heard before. Your goal is to make a statement in the form of a question. The statement is designed to: Highlight your qualifications. Demonstrate your confidence. Reinforce your commitment. Understand the employer’s challenges. Make yourself accountable. Advance your candidacy. Questions are the best way to demonstrate that you understand the company’s challenges, emphasize how you can help the company meet them and show your interest in the most unmistakable manner possible—by actually asking for the position. ...

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What Baggage Do You Carry?

What baggages do you carry?

WRITEEN BY SAMUEL IJILUSI THE BAGGAGE Everyone gets motivated by one thing or the other. I’ve come to realize that there are words or phrases that we either hear or read that hits our mind and causes us to react with physical gesticulation or autonomic reaction. Of course the most common is “Hmmmmmmm!!!”. Few weeks ago during my lunch period at work, I continued with this book written by Mrs.Tokunbo Fasoro that has been chapter-sized to different nuggets. I got to this particular nugget and I found my “Hmmmm!!!” moment. It was about baggage and she illustrated with a story about a footballer who became ineffective on the field of play due to alcoholism. Thereafter, I said to myself, “Samuel, deal with your baggage”. Every one might “Hmmm!” at some words they hear or read and yet do nothing about it, but as for me, it was a turning point. Baggage is simply weight that has no use but one still go around with them. There are numerous and countless baggage items every person carries around in life. The king hit from this book unveiled my eyes to see my baggage. Listed are some of the baggage’s that need to be ditched: Low self-esteem : I have heard many times that we are unique despite being millions on earth, but the feeling I get when in gatherings of high class individuals, is like the entire wind in the surroundings have been directed towards my feet. I’d be walking as though I might fall soon,  funny right? That is low self-esteem baggage and it is accompanied with shallow thoughts, fear and isolation. Confidence is more attractive than fright. I dealt with this by re-engineering my thoughts and believing more in myself. Identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself and dress the way you want to be addressed. Non-constructive relationships: Mrs. Fasoro said, “He who has your ears has your head”. This struck me. I realized, I couldn’t rise beyond the level of my company. I was intentional about this. Recruit who you spend more of my time with and note this, the way they think and speak will rub off on you. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Your association will influence the result you get in life, select them carefully. Poor time utilization: Time is an asset and it’s the greatest resource. You have to be able to control how you spend your time because you are the boss of your time.  I spent time arguing over football stars, but, trying to win an argument consumes my time and energy…….Guess what? You don’t get paid. You have to highlight unprofitable activities on your schedule and trash them. Replace with new ones, such as, reading, thinking etc. It’s possible to learn every hour of the day. Spend time on social media platforms you can learn from instead of chatting all day. You can be the master of your own time, it’s your choice to either waste it or invest it. Emotional baggage: Happiness and sadness are attached to our emotions and they have a role to play when it comes to pursuing our dreams. I had an interview with a popular bank sometime ago and I got to the final level of the interview. I had been in the process for a week, and just a simple question from the head of HR denied me the job, I was so hurt not for days,  but months. This feeling of failure is a kind of emotional baggage. Lost opportunity doesn’t mean it’s the last opportunity. Don’t be derailed by a great chance you missed to achieve your goal. Don’t live in the hurt of the past in the present, forgive yourself, set a new goal and move ahead. Many people might have read about baggage in her book; ‘Walking your way into career success.’ It hit me like a rock and I knew all I had to shed off in my life are these heaps of baggage. Let me pluralize it myself, ‘baggages’. To get to the place of your dream, you must deal with the baggage.   Share on: WhatsApp Post Views: 100

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GET READY – Opeyemi Komolafe

Get Ready

GET READY!!!! A very popular saying is “When opportunity meets preparation, success is inevitable.” That saying is so true!! You complain about how you can’t get a break to show your skills or an opportunity to show a prospective employer/investor how invaluable you or your idea is, yet, when you get that chance, the amazing break you envision disappears like smoke in the wind. Why did that happen? I have a possible explanation ……….. It could be that when that opportunity came, you were required to display a certain skill, showcase knowledge in a certain area, possess a competence etc which you lacked, consequently you appeared not to be quite ready to handle that responsibility. Dear readers, even the most successful individual still has a little project he/she is working on which needs some level of approval. While waiting for that big opportunity, why not invest in yourself? Spend time acquiring different skills, reading about new things, doing short courses etc, basically investing in yourself, so that when that opportunity presents itself, it will find you competent, knowledgeable and well aware of how to move from point A through to point Z. Believe me, if you are feeling your way, unsure and faltering, your investors will find out and a competent recruitment team can tell. No one will trust his business to someone who comes across as unprepared or not competent to handle the responsibilities of the new position/business. Learning point for today…….. while waiting, get ready so that when your big opportunity comes it will meet you ready to run. Share on: WhatsApp Post Views: 95

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How Do You Deal With A Toxic Co-Worker

Toxic Co-Workers

Let’s start with reality. We all are going to have to deal with toxic co-workers from time to time in our career. I can’t say I was 100% successful with any of these strategies, but here is a step by step way to deal with a toxic co-worker: Befriend your toxic co-worker. In other words, as painful as it may be, try and build a relationship of trust with your toxic co-worker. Sometimes people act out because they are alone. Having a friend makes anyone feel better. If this doesn’t work then I recommend… Talking to your toxic co-worker about the problem. This is not easy to do, but factually, without emotion, explain to your toxic co-worker the issues you are having. Two key things here: Don’t gang up on your toxic co-worker. This needs to be a one on one conversation. You will screw it up, and you will be at fault, if you bring more people into the mix. Don’t expect your toxic co-worker to agree with your assessment of the situation. He/She is likely to disagree with you. Stay calm and don’t argue back. Sometimes a little time may do the trick. If none of the above ...

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Self-Leadership: The Secret to Success

Give Back Conference Tokunbo Fasoror

Self-Leadership Over the weekend, I was in Abuja and I listened to a talk on self-leadership. Honestly, before he started, I was already wondering what self-leadership meant. It was such an inspiring talk and I thought to share a few of the tips I learned with you all. Do you know how successful you would be if you take out time every day to think about how and what decisions you make. How decisions you make about yourself affects you and how it affects others. Leadership starts with you. Here are a few tips that can help you with self-leadership. THE NEED TO CONDUCT A SELF-DISCOVERY ON YOURSELF: You need to take time out to discover who you are, your likes, how you spend your day and your time. All this will help you plan on how you can leverage on your strengths to your own benefit and others. DO A SELF-APPRAISAL DAILY: This is very important because it gives you a clear perspective on how you have spent your day. Have you wasted time all day, probably watching only home videos? How many lives have you touched or inspired today? Or did you spend the whole day gossiping? If ...

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Road To Success: Law Of The Scoreboard

Law of the Scoreboard - David Williams

How often do you get a work report or Life Report? I mean those kinds of reports that will rattle the foundation of your existence. I got one few days back. The funny thing was, I knew it was coming but because of self denial and most times laziness I didn’t do anything about it. It felt like a strong wind brushed my face when my boss landed a big one on me, she said “Williams, let me tell you something I have noticed about you. You are willing but the body is weak”. That’s all she needed to say, my mind played out the rest; my inner alarm went off and within a few seconds, It felt like I was going into a subatomic state and my whole life was flashing in front of me. Each word in that sentence landed on me like I was in the ring with Anthony Joshua  of course you know who wins in that context. My inner peace was disturbed; I could feel sweat dripping down my forehead even though the Air Conditioner has been on all day. The Air conditioner couldn’t hide my sweat and that was because she told me the ...

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Worry More About Your Name – Jimi Tewe

jimi Tewe

Don’t get me wrong… I have nothing against wearing nice things that are branded. In fact, I do look forward to wearing some brand items soon.. However… When you spend a lot to wear certain brand names and do not spend as much on building your name into a brand, it will backfire on you sometime in the future. The owners of the brands you are wearing invested in those names over years and today, they are reaping the benefits of their investments. Be honest with yourself, the way you are living your life, who will wear your name, or use your name or eat your brand name in the future? Nothing good just happens. God is big on brand names. In fact, He told Abraham in Genesis 12:3 that He would make His name a Global Brand. This is over 3000 years later and the name Abraham still rings a bell. This is the simple equation that should help you- Spend more of your resources on what builds you than what you spend on wearing other people’s brands. You see, when you become a brand, even if you wear low priced products, people will assume it is high priced ...

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IT’S OK TO START AFRESH By Opeyemi Komolafe

It's Ok to start afresh

IT’S OK TO START AFRESH… I recently did something very bold… I cut my hair and I don’t mean the cute little cut like the popular Ms Baker, I mean the really low, untexturised, school boy haircut. I looked at myself in the mirror and my first reaction was “Jesus Christ, what did I just do?” Before I finally settled on the actual reality. My hair, the hair I had nurtured, pampered, invested so much in was gone!!!!! I was back to square one. The actual truth is that in the state my hair was, there was no future. I was just bathing, trimming and giving a pedicure to a dead horse. It was a hard reality to face but was the best decision to take. Bringing this back to us, there are things that we might have committed ourselves to; a certain career, a business, a relationship etc but we are failing miserably at (in spite of all attempts to make it work), it might be time to cut the umbilical cord and start afresh. Lots of times, we stick with that flailing, dying, frustrating, destructive ………………..( fill in the gap) because we are afraid to start over. Read ...

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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT I met a woman at a salon and we got chatting. She was way older than I was, but we just connected and we began to converse. She is  a  senior manager in one of the  most prestigious Oil and Gas company in Nigeria.  We discussed on how she was always picked by her organization to represent the organization all over the world, attending and delivering speeches in high profile meetings. I asked her how she started out, and I wasn’t surprised when she mentioned PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT. When she told me how much she had invested in personal development, training, workshops and career development courses. She said anytime she was out of the country on holidays, she would look for a training to attend and over the years. She had acquired a lot of knowledge, skill and exposure that her organization had leveraged on, till date.   TIPS ON WHY PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT IS KEY Opportunity waits for no one: Opportunity meets preparation. If opportunity comes and you are not ready, it moves to the next person, so invest as much as you can in yourself.   Always try to improve on a skill or learn something new: A ...

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‘All fingers are not equal, must yours be the shortest?’ Tokunbo Fasoro

The first time I heard that statement from one of my mentors, I laughed and laughed but it’s just the honest truth. A lot of people find themselves in situations that look so difficult and a lot of people just give up at that point. I was chatting with a lady who was 34 years old and was battling with low self-esteem. She had dropped out of school and she said to me “I don’t even know where to start”. Given up on being someone great, she kept blaming her inadequacies on her past and has accepted the back seat position in life. I went on to share a book I read with her titled ‘Woman of Persistent Faith’ by Akiesha Keke Taylor , who after going through so much in life, didn’t give up, found her feet and decided to start all over again. Today, her story is impacting and changing lives. Keke refused to remain in that situation; she fought hard until she got out of it. I love the story of Jabez in the Bible whose mother named him pain, because she went through so much pain having him. As he grew, the name reflected on his life, but one day he decided that “NO! Enough is enough”. ...

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