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Networking And Building Relationships Made Easy

Networking and building relationships

I went out one beautiful Saturday morning for an exhibition. On my way back, I saw some beautiful flowers along the lawn and I picked some. When I got back home, I dropped them in a flower pot, didn’t even bother to put some water in them. The very next day, I repeated the same thing. I continued like that……….on and on, days after days, weeks after weeks, it was becoming a habit, I was loving the idea of collecting flowers but there was a problem. I kept on gathering them without taking care of them. All I wanted to do was pick them up and keep them in the flower pot at home not considering the fact that I had to take care of them by giving them the required amount of water and sunlight they needed. I wasn’t even concerned about the number of flowers I could manage at a time in my small flower pot. One day, they were all dead. Many times, when we go to networking events, we end up collecting a thousand business cards not minding if we can successfully manage the relationship with all these people. We don’t even keep in touch to ...

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“The Have-to’s” and “The want-to’s”

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I was chatting with a friend and she was talking to me about how the house would be so dirty sometimes and she wouldn’t just feel like cleaning.  She would instead ‘want to’ sleep or watch TV, but unfortunately, it’s something that she ‘has to’ do. As human beings, most times we don’t want to be stressed, we all just want to sleep, have fun, relax, play, hang out, party etc. These are things we ‘want to do’ and there are so many things we wouldn’t feel like doing, especially when it comes to hard work, setting goals, following through, making sacrifices etc. but unfortunately these are things that we ‘have to do’ to remain relevant and be successful. Relating this to careers, goals or even aspirations in life, we just find out that most times we prefer to remain where we are. Quite a lot of people find it difficult getting out of the status quo. Many times you discover a lot of people are limited because they are not intrinsically motivated, most people want to be motivated or pushed by other people before they can take the next big step in their lives which would take them to ...

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Be responsible- Remember someone might be watching

Be responsible

Article By Tokunbo Fasoro FB AND IG: @TOKUNBOFASORO Being responsible is a topic I like to talk about all the time because as unbelievable as it may sound, just being responsible can take you to places that you can never imagine you can get to. Responsibility is a skill, you learn it. Someone said the decision to be lazy or get up early everyday is taken by you. It all boils down to your own conscious decision, choosing your own actions and words. Responsibility reflects in the decisions we take in our everyday lives from when you wake up in the morning to take a bath, going to work, how we work and relate with our colleagues, bosses and subordinates, getting early to work, following your schedules, meeting your timelines, ensuring savings, pursuing career and personal development etc. This list can go on and on. Being able to show responsibility in every little thing produces good results. A colleague of mine was sharing with me on how he found in the dustbin an envelope of money in the US dollar currency and he returned it to his boss. He said to me that his boss was surprised the he found ...

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Your Habits Make You Or Break You

Habit

Article By Opeyemi Komolafe HEY……..STOP THAT!! Yes, you……stop it!!!! What is that thing, now a habit that is sabotaging the achievement of your goals? What is that activity that you love so much that is a hindrance to you taking the timely and calculated steps towards the achievement of your life’s purpose. They are not always bad things. They might appear to be harmless little actions or habits that make you do the opposite of pursuing your life’s goal. For me, it is television. I loooooooooove TV!!!!! I always tell myself that it helps me unwind and relax after a long hard day so the hours I spend watching tv are slotted under the section of ‘work/life balance’ or ‘helping Ope relax and prevent her from pulling her hair from the roots.’ Watching tv is not necessarily bad, but its effects on me became glaring after a recent decision by my husband that cable network would not be subscribed to during the school term. You see, my daughter picked some of my habits and always found it difficult to focus on school work as long as a tv is switched on in the house. This drove my husband’s insistence on ...

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Sprinting Theory: How to Have Self-Discipline on Steroids

Discipline

There ain’t no such thing as willpower. Explaining away wins and losses by some magical force is only useful if you don’t understand anything about your own psychology. Having concrete theories about why your self-discipline can fail you is far more useful. I’m going to explore one of those ideas for putting your self-discipline on steroids. Using this concept has been incredibly useful in breaking through my own laziness. This simple idea I’m going to refer to as sprinting theory. 100-Meter Dash or Marathon? Running is all about pacing. If you go too fast early in the race, you’ll burn out all your energy far before the finish line. Completing a marathon is quite different than bursting through the 100-meter dash. If you get the pacing wrong you’ll either finish way behind or stop halfway. Pacing a sprint is straightforward because of one thing: you know the length of the race. You know before the starting pistol fires whether you’ll finish a brief lap around the track or several miles. The goal of sprinting theory is to help you set a pace for your discipline. Discipline is a Fuel Recent research suggests that self-discipline is a fuel, not a state ...

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THE MONEY VALUE OF TIME

The Money Value of Time

By Opeyemi Komolafe A pretty popular cliche I hear is, “The time value of money”. I’ve never spent time analyzing this statement because I never had to, anyway, the object of my discourse is ‘The Money Value of Time.’ A few days ago, I dropped my children in school and was on my way when I came across an NNPC mega station. The queue for fuel was as long as the eyes could see and as endless as one could imagine. I needed fuel, but drove by and went to another which sold at N180 per liter…….No queue by the way!!! I truly started to wonder how a child of God possessing invaluable time with a purpose in life would spend two (2) days on a queue just to save an extra N35 per liter!!!!!!! Some people will eventually get a turn and buy twenty (20) liters, thus saving a mere N700!!!!!!! I understand that N700 is 2 dollars as such, can feed the poorest families in Nigeria for 2 days, but, if you own a car, or drive a car, you do not fall into that income bracket in anyway. Wasting all that time on a queue is wasting ...

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Body language mistakes even experienced professionals make

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You may have chosen the perfect words for the meeting, the presentation, or the one-on-one conversation, but if your body language isn’t in sync, your message won’t stick. Moira Lawler, Monster contributor You’ve mastered the firm handshake—congrats! But don’t stop there: Body language in the workplace goes way beyond that. Think about it: You can only get out so many words per minute (yes, even you fast talkers out there), but your body gives off thousands of messages in that same stretch of time, says Patti Wood, an Atlanta-based body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma. Problem is, many managers and senior execs don’t pay attention to their body language. “They have two conversations going on: the verbal conversation and the nonverbal conversation,” says Carol Kinsey Goman, Ph.D., a California-based body language expert and author of The Silent Language of Leaders: How Body Language Can Help—or Hurt—How You Lead. “And the nonverbal can either support or sabotage what they say.” Read through these six common mistakes to see if your body language is working against you. Mistake #1: You’re making too much (or too little) eye contact Without eye contact, you’re telling ...

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What are your long-term goals?

Long-term Goals

The way you discuss this topic could make or break the interview. Try these exercises to stay focused so you can clearly state your goals with ease. Daniel Bortz, Monster contributor   How you envision your future is important to employers. They can tell a lot about the type of employee you think you are (or are hoping to become). That’s why one of the most common interview questions is, “What are your long-term goals?”Job seekers stumble on it for a number of reasons, says Julie Jansen, career coach and author of You Want Me to Work With Who? “A lot of people think of goals in terms of career progression,” Jansen says, “but employers aren’t asking whether you want to be promoted when they’re asking about your goals.”Other job seekers make the mistake of concentrating on salary goals, says Tim Cole, owner at career-coaching firm The Compass Alliance. “Saying what you want to be earning in a few years is a very ‘me focused’ response,” he says.Of course, how you answer this job interview question will depend on your industry and the position you’re applying for, but there are some general guidelines to follow when crafting your response. Relieve ...

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4 Steps To Following Your Dreams

How to follow your dreams

By Anne Fisher, Monster contributor 4 steps to following your dreams—without falling flat on your face “When to Jump” author Mike Lewis says you should pay attention to your daydreams because they might just be nudging you toward a leap into your ideal job. Two years out of an Ivy League college, 24-year-old Mike Lewis snagged a high-paying job with Bain Capital Ventures, a finance arm of prestigious consulting firm Bain & Co. He knew he should be happy. After all, only a tiny percentage of candidates for jobs like this are chosen, so getting hired at the firm, he says, was “like winning the lottery.” Yet, an avid and skilled squash player, Lewis found himself spending more and more time “staring at the wall” in his office, daydreaming about quitting his job to play squash. “What you have in mind is absolutely crazy,” said a friend to whom he confided his secret wish. “But there’s a difference between crazy and stupid.” Over the next few years, not only had Lewis made his daydream come true, but he also found hundreds of other people who had made similar jumps—including a publicist who became an Episcopal bishop, a garbage collector who ...

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HELP SOMEONE AND DETACH

Opeyemi Komolafe

BY OPEYEMI KOMOLAFE I heard this statement from Paul Foh, the No 1 salesman in Nigeria. He is a force to be reckoned with in the area of Sales and Sales’ Training. It struck a chord in my heart because a lot of us don’t know how to do this. You often hear people say “After all I did for him/her, look at what was done to repay me!” Paul used a tree analogy; when you plant a tree, as long as you have chosen a good piece of soil and you have made sure it gets all its nourishment, walk away and plant other trees. It is not normal to plant a tree and then loiter about remaining connected to the tree, constantly reminding the tree of your good deed because you are waiting for that tree to grow and provide shade for you. When we are instrumental in setting someone up in business, helping someone get a job, putting someone through school etc, we shouldn’t wait around and expect to reap from it. God is the rewarder. PLANT THE TREE (HELP) AND DETACH!!!! That’s where the dignity lies. That’s where the blessing is guaranteed. That is where the legacy is established. As human beings, it is only human and subconsciously expected, to reap where we have sown and to be hurt when there is no harvest, or if the the harvest is evil, but when you walk away and wipe the slate clean, you have no expectations and that way, it’s difficult for you to get hurt. By God’s grace I helped a young lady from a challenged background to get a really good job (some old relationships paid off) recently and she was so appreciative that I actually started getting embarrassed. In my mind, I was like “Please don’t use your thank you to cancel out my heavenly blessing.” But I would be lying if I said my human mind didn’t enjoy the acknowledgement and appreciation. A lot of us have been hurt by people we helped in the past and that has made us reluctant to plant another tree. Believe me, the pain is less when you have no expectations, that way, looking forward to planting another tree is just going to be second nature. The reward that matters is incomparable to the paltry shade that your planted tree can provide you. I speak to myself also when I sound it once more…….PLANT A TREE (HELP A PERSON) AND DETACH!!! Share on: WhatsApp Post Views: 404

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