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Networking And Building Relationships Made Easy

Networking and building relationships

I went out one beautiful Saturday morning for an exhibition. On my way back, I saw some beautiful flowers along the lawn and I picked some. When I got back home, I dropped them in a flower pot, didn’t even bother to put some water in them. The very next day, I repeated the same thing. I continued like that……….on and on, days after days, weeks after weeks, it was becoming a habit, I was loving the idea of collecting flowers but there was a problem. I kept on gathering them without taking care of them. All I wanted to do was pick them up and keep them in the flower pot at home not considering the fact that I had to take care of them by giving them the required amount of water and sunlight they needed. I wasn’t even concerned about the number of flowers I could manage at a time in my small flower pot. One day, they were all dead. Many times, when we go to networking events, we end up collecting a thousand business cards not minding if we can successfully manage the relationship with all these people. We don’t even keep in touch to ...

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“The Have-to’s” and “The want-to’s”

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I was chatting with a friend and she was talking to me about how the house would be so dirty sometimes and she wouldn’t just feel like cleaning.  She would instead ‘want to’ sleep or watch TV, but unfortunately, it’s something that she ‘has to’ do. As human beings, most times we don’t want to be stressed, we all just want to sleep, have fun, relax, play, hang out, party etc. These are things we ‘want to do’ and there are so many things we wouldn’t feel like doing, especially when it comes to hard work, setting goals, following through, making sacrifices etc. but unfortunately these are things that we ‘have to do’ to remain relevant and be successful. Relating this to careers, goals or even aspirations in life, we just find out that most times we prefer to remain where we are. Quite a lot of people find it difficult getting out of the status quo. Many times you discover a lot of people are limited because they are not intrinsically motivated, most people want to be motivated or pushed by other people before they can take the next big step in their lives which would take them to ...

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Be responsible- Remember someone might be watching

Be responsible

Article By Tokunbo Fasoro FB AND IG: @TOKUNBOFASORO Being responsible is a topic I like to talk about all the time because as unbelievable as it may sound, just being responsible can take you to places that you can never imagine you can get to. Responsibility is a skill, you learn it. Someone said the decision to be lazy or get up early everyday is taken by you. It all boils down to your own conscious decision, choosing your own actions and words. Responsibility reflects in the decisions we take in our everyday lives from when you wake up in the morning to take a bath, going to work, how we work and relate with our colleagues, bosses and subordinates, getting early to work, following your schedules, meeting your timelines, ensuring savings, pursuing career and personal development etc. This list can go on and on. Being able to show responsibility in every little thing produces good results. A colleague of mine was sharing with me on how he found in the dustbin an envelope of money in the US dollar currency and he returned it to his boss. He said to me that his boss was surprised the he found ...

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Your Habits Make You Or Break You

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Article By Opeyemi Komolafe HEY……..STOP THAT!! Yes, you……stop it!!!! What is that thing, now a habit that is sabotaging the achievement of your goals? What is that activity that you love so much that is a hindrance to you taking the timely and calculated steps towards the achievement of your life’s purpose. They are not always bad things. They might appear to be harmless little actions or habits that make you do the opposite of pursuing your life’s goal. For me, it is television. I loooooooooove TV!!!!! I always tell myself that it helps me unwind and relax after a long hard day so the hours I spend watching tv are slotted under the section of ‘work/life balance’ or ‘helping Ope relax and prevent her from pulling her hair from the roots.’ Watching tv is not necessarily bad, but its effects on me became glaring after a recent decision by my husband that cable network would not be subscribed to during the school term. You see, my daughter picked some of my habits and always found it difficult to focus on school work as long as a tv is switched on in the house. This drove my husband’s insistence on ...

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Sprinting Theory: How to Have Self-Discipline on Steroids

Discipline

There ain’t no such thing as willpower. Explaining away wins and losses by some magical force is only useful if you don’t understand anything about your own psychology. Having concrete theories about why your self-discipline can fail you is far more useful. I’m going to explore one of those ideas for putting your self-discipline on steroids. Using this concept has been incredibly useful in breaking through my own laziness. This simple idea I’m going to refer to as sprinting theory. 100-Meter Dash or Marathon? Running is all about pacing. If you go too fast early in the race, you’ll burn out all your energy far before the finish line. Completing a marathon is quite different than bursting through the 100-meter dash. If you get the pacing wrong you’ll either finish way behind or stop halfway. Pacing a sprint is straightforward because of one thing: you know the length of the race. You know before the starting pistol fires whether you’ll finish a brief lap around the track or several miles. The goal of sprinting theory is to help you set a pace for your discipline. Discipline is a Fuel Recent research suggests that self-discipline is a fuel, not a state ...

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9 Good Questions To Ask In An Interview

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Interviews aren’t just about giving the right answers—they’re about asking the right questions. John Kador, Monster contributor The landscape for job seekers today can be difficult. In other words, if you want a job today, the hard work starts when you prepare for the interview. That means not just nailing the interview questions you are asked, but actually asking the kinds of questions designed to make the interviewer sit up and take notice. It’s no longer enough to be qualified. If you want to stand out in today’s job market you have to show your excellence by asking excellent questions. These questions could also help you avoid a bad boss before it’s too late. Don’t squander an opportunity to shine by asking mundane questions the interviewer has heard before. Your goal is to make a statement in the form of a question. The statement is designed to: Highlight your qualifications. Demonstrate your confidence. Reinforce your commitment. Understand the employer’s challenges. Make yourself accountable. Advance your candidacy. Questions are the best way to demonstrate that you understand the company’s challenges, emphasize how you can help the company meet them and show your interest in the most unmistakable manner possible—by actually asking for the position. ...

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MY Time, My Money and My Energy

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By Tokunbo Fasoro As a child, Tiger Woods stuttered and for two years took after-school classes to correct his stuttering. Read what Tiger Woods had to say about his stuttering, “I know what it’s like to be different, and to sometimes not fit in. I stuttered as a child and I would always talk to my dog. He would sit there and listen until he fell asleep. I also took a class for two years to help me until I finally learned to stop.” Very few people have it all. We all have areas in our lives were we are struggling, but most times we ignore this things and continue to live like that when we can actually decide to put in some extra effort, invest a little time, or make a sacrifice by spending some money on fixing it. We may even need to invest in all of them- our Time, our Energy and our Money to ensure that those limiting areas in our lives are sorted. I want BIE readers to take out time to ask, “What area of my life do I need to invest in that will make me a better person”? Or “What aspect of ...

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How I Recovered From Drug Addiction

Addiction

By T.  Omugor I was reading an article on the effects of smoking and taking in harmful substances and I can only be grateful to God I don’t have any of those. I was an extremely intelligent girl in school, my teachers and family would say I was a gifted child. The sky wasn’t even my stepping stone at the rate my brain functioned. At the time I wrote National Common Entrance I was number three in the whole nation and my parents actually expected more because they knew what God had bestowed upon me. When I got into secondary school, I was still doing well but I had become a ‘Gucci girl'( a clique in school). We were among the funky/cool/popular ones. In most sets, there’s always that clique. We hung out together, partied a lot and became very unserious with my academics. By the time I was leaving school, with all my truancy and misbehavior I nicely got 4Ps and 4Fs. That could never get me into any institution. Before then, I went for the holidays in Kano to stay with my older sister and so when I heard my result was out, I bluntly refused to return to Lagos because I knew my oldest sister who had slaved to send me through ...

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How Do You Know If You’ll Be Successful

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By Brett Fox When times were really rough, I would get Avery’s magic eight ball. I would ask it, “Do you think we’re going to make it?” I would shake the eight ball and wait for the answer to appear in the triangle. The answer came back, “Prospect Good.” My fear was over for a day. The magic eight ball said we were going to be okay. Then, the next day I would shake the magic eight ball again. This time the answer came back, “No.” “It must be a mistake,” I said to myself. “Today, it’s the best two out of three.” So, I shook the magic eight ball again, and this time it came back, “Yes!”. I breathed a sigh of relief, but I still had one more shake to go. So I shook the magic eight ball really, really hard and this time it came back, “Maybe.”   And that about sums up the life of an entrepreneur, doesn’t it? It’s a big maybe. Unfortunately, no one can tell you, not even the magic eight ball, whether or not you’re going to succeed. But there are leading indicators. Here are my eight leading indicators of entrepreneurial success: ...

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What are your long-term goals?

Long-term Goals

The way you discuss this topic could make or break the interview. Try these exercises to stay focused so you can clearly state your goals with ease. Daniel Bortz, Monster contributor   How you envision your future is important to employers. They can tell a lot about the type of employee you think you are (or are hoping to become). That’s why one of the most common interview questions is, “What are your long-term goals?”Job seekers stumble on it for a number of reasons, says Julie Jansen, career coach and author of You Want Me to Work With Who? “A lot of people think of goals in terms of career progression,” Jansen says, “but employers aren’t asking whether you want to be promoted when they’re asking about your goals.”Other job seekers make the mistake of concentrating on salary goals, says Tim Cole, owner at career-coaching firm The Compass Alliance. “Saying what you want to be earning in a few years is a very ‘me focused’ response,” he says.Of course, how you answer this job interview question will depend on your industry and the position you’re applying for, but there are some general guidelines to follow when crafting your response. Relieve ...

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