Road To Success
I remember growing up, I always had horrible things to say about myself;
I was the ugliest girl in my class, my nails looked horrible, I even
lied that I was an Igbo girl forgetting my name was Tokunbo – A Yoruba
name (somehow, I thought there was more dignity in being Igbo). I would
want to bleach/tone my skin because I felt that maybe if I was lighter,
I would be prettier. Of course I got bullied a lot, because I felt all
my friends were better than me and it was a privilege to be counted as
one of their friends.
I remember getting myself a boyfriend all because I wanted to ‘Feel
Among’…….. that’s the word! Nothing serious, I wouldn’t even
communicate with him because I felt it was a privilege that someone
thought I was attractive enough to be dated. I would barely even say a
word around him.The point for me still remained the fact that I; the
ugly ducking had a boyfriend.
Well… it lasted only a couple of weeks, I overheard someone say that
my boyfriend couldn’t stand my dull attitude and so the relationship
was over. This inferiority complex continued through my time in the
University and finally my service year.
Who do you associate with?
I keep thanking God for making sure I was posted to platoon 2. I’m
sure even God was tired of my dull attitude and said “Enough is
enough!!” (LOL!!!). In that platoon, I met a young lady; who unknown to me had seen more in me than I saw in myself. She would
always shout and scream at me whenever I said something negative about
myself. She would tell me to shut up and then begin to tell me how much
greatness I had in me, how I could actually become who I wanted to be.
She made me believe that I could become great in the future. Imagine
being stuck with that kind of person for 3 weeks, your life will
definitely change! There in NYSC camp, I set a 10 year goal and I
achieved it in 9 years.
WOW… how my life had changed, and with the help of God, I have been
able to inspire people, impact lives, help people find jobs through the
BI Empowerment platform, mentor young ladies who had similar issues
growing up, as well as help young people become successful in their
personal and professional lives.
The crux of the matter is “Who do you associate with?” You have
three (3) weeks of camp, one (1) year to serve, career seminars,
conferences, training programs etc You have an opportunity to network
with new people, to meet with some amazing people that can inspire you
to greatness or push you out of your comfort zone. You might meet that
person who will encourage you to take that big leap unto your road to
success and lead you to make an impact; adding value to someone’s
The question is “Who do you associate with?”
Written by Tokunbo Fasoro