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IT’S OK TO START AFRESH By Opeyemi Komolafe

It's Ok to start afresh

IT’S OK TO START AFRESH… I recently did something very bold… I cut my hair and I don’t mean the cute little cut like the popular Ms Baker, I mean the really low, untexturised, school boy haircut. I looked at myself in the mirror and my first reaction was “Jesus Christ, what did I just do?” Before I finally settled on the actual reality. My hair, the hair I had nurtured, pampered, invested so much in was gone!!!!! I was back to square one. The actual truth is that in the state my hair was, there was no future. I was just bathing, trimming and giving a pedicure to a dead horse. It was a hard reality to face but was the best decision to take. Bringing this back to us, there are things that we might have committed ourselves to; a certain career, a business, a relationship etc but we are failing miserably at (in spite of all attempts to make it work), it might be time to cut the umbilical cord and start afresh. Lots of times, we stick with that flailing, dying, frustrating, destructive ………………..( fill in the gap) because we are afraid to start over. Read ...

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Building a Successful Career and procrastination

Building a Successful Career and procrastination I met an old friend some time ago, this person had been one of the best students in school at that time and when we began to discuss, I found out that he had been on the same position for many years and had not gotten a pay raise in over 5 years. It was a real heart break to learn that someone with so much potential was suffering from career stagnation. He complained that at some point,  he was looking forward to getting promoted to a particular position but unfortunately the organization recruited someone else to fill the position, and he felt cheated. I asked for his CV, and realized that all he had in the last 11 years was his first degree. He had not obtained another degree or another certification, and it was evident that there was no effort made on personal development. I told him that if I were his manager, I would have done the same. Without realizing it, most of us retreat into our comfort zones and never leave it. We just retreat, forgetting that the world is revolving and things are changing. The degree you had yesterday ...

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Procrastination – Opposite Road to Success

Procrastination – Opposite Road to Success

Procrastination Many times we have dreams about what we want to do, how to go about it, all the necessary things to put in place and even a bulk of the resources we need to start the process off. But taking that seemingly huge first step becomes the problem, we may sometimes think that it will be quite demanding or even convince ourselves that we are just waiting for the right time to do it, but truth is that right time never comes. This scenario just painted, which we all go through at some point or the other is what is referred to as procrastination. Without realizing it, most of us subconsciously retreat to our comfort zone and never leave it. We just feel safe doing what we are used to. I read somewhere  that we avoid taking on new tasks for this simple reason “Taking action will cause us more perceived pain than perceived pleasure” I completely agree with this, even though this is not the case all the time, it mostly is. There are different reasons why people procrastinate; some are lack of understanding, inadequacy, perfectionism and laziness. Some people have lost out on career opportunities and even ...

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LOOK….WHAT DO YOU SEE? – Opeyemi Komolafe

Doing back to back interviews have further revealed that most prospective job seekers don’t see beyond getting a steady income. The question ” Where do you see yourself career wise in the next 5-10 years?” is often met with confusion, agitation or or at best  uncertain hesitation. Those who are deemed confident and eloquent enough to respond will reel off a list of contradicting and inversely proportional plans that cause the interviewer’s jaw to drop in amazement.  I interviewed someone yesterday for a position as an educationist, the fact that all he had was a National Diploma in Estate development was not what puzzled me, the fact that he had no plans of furthering his education (remember he wants to be an educationist!) was not what amazed me, it was the fact that his career plans for the next 5-10 years was plainly ” I want to be employing people to be working as my labour” is what completely knocked my socks off!!!!!    EVERYONE HAS A DREAM Everyone on earth has that as a dream. It is the vaguest and most ambiguous plan anyone can have.  The error in grammatical construct and the fact that he came in sagging ...

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‘All fingers are not equal, must yours be the shortest?’ Tokunbo Fasoro

The first time I heard that statement from one of my mentors, I laughed and laughed but it’s just the honest truth. A lot of people find themselves in situations that look so difficult and a lot of people just give up at that point. I was chatting with a lady who was 34 years old and was battling with low self-esteem. She had dropped out of school and she said to me “I don’t even know where to start”. Given up on being someone great, she kept blaming her inadequacies on her past and has accepted the back seat position in life. I went on to share a book I read with her titled ‘Woman of Persistent Faith’ by Akiesha Keke Taylor , who after going through so much in life, didn’t give up, found her feet and decided to start all over again. Today, her story is impacting and changing lives. Keke refused to remain in that situation; she fought hard until she got out of it. I love the story of Jabez in the Bible whose mother named him pain, because she went through so much pain having him. As he grew, the name reflected on his life, but one day he decided that “NO! Enough is enough”. ...

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LEARN AND KEEP LEARNING – OPEYEMI KOMOLAFE

Keep Learning Raising my children has taught me that you should be careful what you mention to a child because you will be quoted verbatim even if you have reconsidered your stance on that subject. One day, my daughter was ranting on how she hates school and doesn’t understand why she needs to always read while I got to do whatever I liked. I remember saying ” My dear daughter, I have finished studying all the books I want to study in my lifetime, anything after those are optional. You, on the other hand have a long way to go, and I’m not even seeking your opinion. You must have a good education”. My six (6) year old wailed louder and walked away.  Back to present day: The dynamism and competition in the workplace and business sphere today has driven me back to those books. I envision my daughter laughing at me the moment she realizes that I have no option as well. There are nights that father, mother and children in my home have their noses in one piece of literature or the other. To remain relevant in the world today, continuous learning is not optional, it is mandatory. ...

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Tips from Warren Buffet-2nd richest in America

The second wealthiest person in the United States The second wealthiest person in the United States Saw this online and thought to share… I hope you learn something from this. There was a one hour interview on CNBC with Warren Buffet, the second richest man who has donated $31 billion to charity. Here are some very interesting aspects of his life: 1. He bought his first share at age 11 and he now regrets that he started too late! 2. He bought a small farm at age 14 with savings from delivering newspapers 3. He still lives in the same small 3-bedroom house in mid-town Omaha, which he bought after he got married 50 years ago. He says that he has everything he needs in that house. His house does not have a wall or a fence. 4. He drives his own car everywhere and does not have a driver or security people around him. 5. He never travels by private jet, although he owns the world’s largest private jet company. 6. His company, Berkshire Hathaway, owns 63 companies. He has given his CEO’s only two rules. Rule number 1: do not lose any of your shareholder’s money. Rule number ...

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Are You Recommendable? – Tokunbo Fasoro

Are you Recommendable? I went to an organization to deliver a training on Personal Effectiveness. While I was speaking, a man stood up and complained bitterly about how the Nigerian economy is so bad, with a high rate of unemployment, and how four (4) of his children who are graduates are at home with no jobs. I decided to have a chat with him after the training where I asked him to send one of them to me. After speaking with her, I discovered she had very poor communication skills and I asked myself, “Can I actually recommend her to any of our clients?” The honest truth is that communication is one of the most vital qualities we look out for during interviews. Every job seeker needs to do an appraisal on how good your communication skills are. I have put down a few tips on how to improve your communication skills. Read good books: Books that would help in building your vocabulary like novels, inspirational books or even your primary school English textbooks can help improve your communication. Association: Interact with people who have excellent command of English that will in turn rob off on how you communicate. Watching ...

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Business Partnership (Pt 3) – Opeyemi Komolafe

Business Partnership Part 3 As much as having a partner gives you leverage, having a problematic partner can cost you business, clients, your reputation and even your entire company.  So what do you do when you find out you have made a partnership error?  Dissolve the partnership as soon as possible. Knowing that a business partner is a fellow member of a business by contract, to dissolve the partnership, you will have to go back to the contract, get your lawyers and settle amicably (hopefully out of court).  It is important to note that all partnerships have their ups and downs, that said, we must be able to separate differences in personal and corporate affairs. Irreconcilable differences in some personal affairs might not necessarily impact the business, so to dissolve a viable partnership over preferred educational systems for your children is just plain folly, no matter how heated the argument. The denomination of your church does not impact on your business. A necessity to take an annual leave to vacation every year doesn’t necessarily impact your business.  As long as those differences don’t affect the business or reputation of the business, the partnership can work.  The minute your differences begin to ...

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Business Partnership (Pt 2) – Opeyemi Komolafe

Business Partnership 2 In business relationships, integrity on your part and the part of your clients, vendors, financiers and employees cannot be over emphasized, however, in a business partnership it is completely non-negotiable. Apparently I am back to this topic of integrity, click here to read Part One. It can never be overstated. Imagine having a business partner who is completely unpredictable, someone you can’t trust to deliver on a job, someone you cannot assign as a signatory to an account, someone with whom you cannot take a well deserved vacation, I can go on and on but my point is clear. Having a business partner means you agree to some extent with the personality, value system and priority rating of that individual. You are better off facing the challenge of running a business on your own than having a partner who keeps you up at night, raises your blood pressure and has you keep your Account Officer on speed dial. We’ve spoken at length about integrity in one of my previous posts. As we did for ourselves, in picking a business partner, kindly ask yourself these questions based on what you know about this person. “As a person, what ...

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