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By Tokunbo Fasoro As a child, Tiger Woods stuttered and for two years took after-school classes to correct his stuttering. Read what Tiger Woods had to say about his stuttering, “I know what it’s like to be different, and to sometimes not fit in. I stuttered as a child and I would always talk to my dog. He would sit there and listen until he fell asleep. I also took a class for two years to help me until I finally learned to stop.” Very few people have it all. We all have areas in our lives were we are struggling, but most times we ignore this things and continue to live like that when we can actually decide to put in some extra effort, invest a little time, or make a sacrifice by spending some money on fixing it. We may even need to invest in all of them- our Time, our Energy and our Money to ensure that those limiting areas in our lives are sorted. I want BIE readers to take out time to ask, “What area of my life do I need to invest in that will make me a better person”? Or “What aspect of ...

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How I Recovered From Drug Addiction

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By T.  Omugor I was reading an article on the effects of smoking and taking in harmful substances and I can only be grateful to God I don’t have any of those. I was an extremely intelligent girl in school, my teachers and family would say I was a gifted child. The sky wasn’t even my stepping stone at the rate my brain functioned. At the time I wrote National Common Entrance I was number three in the whole nation and my parents actually expected more because they knew what God had bestowed upon me. When I got into secondary school, I was still doing well but I had become a ‘Gucci girl'( a clique in school). We were among the funky/cool/popular ones. In most sets, there’s always that clique. We hung out together, partied a lot and became very unserious with my academics. By the time I was leaving school, with all my truancy and misbehavior I nicely got 4Ps and 4Fs. That could never get me into any institution. Before then, I went for the holidays in Kano to stay with my older sister and so when I heard my result was out, I bluntly refused to return to Lagos because I knew my oldest sister who had slaved to send me through ...

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Nothing Should Stop You From Achieving Your Goal

Tokunbo Fasoro

BY TOKUNBO FASORO I was doing a write up two days ago about my life, growing up, and I remember this certain period of my life when it just looked impossible to achieve a certain goal. I just thought to share on how I was able to overcome that challenge with BIE readers. When I was in primary school, I wasn’t an extraordinary student, but I was always toping the class in Mathematics; I always scored a hundred percent. I remember the event that led to the day I scored 98% in Mathematics. The classmate who sat beside me asked me for the answer to a question, I didn’t want to tell her, so I deceived her. I wrote the wrong answer on my answer script and planned to change it later, but unfortunately I forgot to correct it so I lost the two marks. Serves me right, right? Back to my story, I then got into secondary school, but unfortunately, my school had no math teacher from JSS 1 to JSS 3. We just played during the math period. I was in boarding school, so young and naïve, consequently I didn’t realize or see any need to tell my parents about it. So I started failing math from first term JSS 1. Of course, I failed my junior WAEC when the school  ‘solved the problem’ by just bringing in a corper to teach us two ...

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What are your long-term goals?

Long-term Goals

The way you discuss this topic could make or break the interview. Try these exercises to stay focused so you can clearly state your goals with ease. Daniel Bortz, Monster contributor   How you envision your future is important to employers. They can tell a lot about the type of employee you think you are (or are hoping to become). That’s why one of the most common interview questions is, “What are your long-term goals?”Job seekers stumble on it for a number of reasons, says Julie Jansen, career coach and author of You Want Me to Work With Who? “A lot of people think of goals in terms of career progression,” Jansen says, “but employers aren’t asking whether you want to be promoted when they’re asking about your goals.”Other job seekers make the mistake of concentrating on salary goals, says Tim Cole, owner at career-coaching firm The Compass Alliance. “Saying what you want to be earning in a few years is a very ‘me focused’ response,” he says.Of course, how you answer this job interview question will depend on your industry and the position you’re applying for, but there are some general guidelines to follow when crafting your response. Relieve ...

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The one area where women still fail to stand up for themselves

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Women are leading the charge for change—except when it comes to negotiating their salaries. Don’t get cheated. Use these tips to boost your bargaining power. Vicki Salemi, Monster career expert There’s no denying it: Women are calling for change. They’re mobilized, invigorated, and determined to make sure the future is one that supports them both in their personal and professional pursuits. But a recent study says there’s one glaring area where women aren’t standing up for themselves. And that’s a huge bummer.Only 34% of women negotiate their job offers, compared to 46% of their male peers, according to a recent survey of more than 2,700 workers by global staffing firm Robert Half. And actually, from my experience as a corporate recruiter, I’d say the discrepancy is even greater! We expect today’s modern women to be more vocal and fearless than previous generations, so this news is especially bewildering.As someone who has been on the other side of the desk in countless job-offer negotiations, I can tell you this: Everyone should negotiate their salaries. With all of that in mind, I thought I might offer some insights for women on how to approach this kind of discussion with confidence. You might ...

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4 Steps To Following Your Dreams

How to follow your dreams

By Anne Fisher, Monster contributor 4 steps to following your dreams—without falling flat on your face “When to Jump” author Mike Lewis says you should pay attention to your daydreams because they might just be nudging you toward a leap into your ideal job. Two years out of an Ivy League college, 24-year-old Mike Lewis snagged a high-paying job with Bain Capital Ventures, a finance arm of prestigious consulting firm Bain & Co. He knew he should be happy. After all, only a tiny percentage of candidates for jobs like this are chosen, so getting hired at the firm, he says, was “like winning the lottery.” Yet, an avid and skilled squash player, Lewis found himself spending more and more time “staring at the wall” in his office, daydreaming about quitting his job to play squash. “What you have in mind is absolutely crazy,” said a friend to whom he confided his secret wish. “But there’s a difference between crazy and stupid.” Over the next few years, not only had Lewis made his daydream come true, but he also found hundreds of other people who had made similar jumps—including a publicist who became an Episcopal bishop, a garbage collector who ...

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HELP SOMEONE AND DETACH

Opeyemi Komolafe

BY OPEYEMI KOMOLAFE I heard this statement from Paul Foh, the No 1 salesman in Nigeria. He is a force to be reckoned with in the area of Sales and Sales’ Training. It struck a chord in my heart because a lot of us don’t know how to do this. You often hear people say “After all I did for him/her, look at what was done to repay me!” Paul used a tree analogy; when you plant a tree, as long as you have chosen a good piece of soil and you have made sure it gets all its nourishment, walk away and plant other trees. It is not normal to plant a tree and then loiter about remaining connected to the tree, constantly reminding the tree of your good deed because you are waiting for that tree to grow and provide shade for you. When we are instrumental in setting someone up in business, helping someone get a job, putting someone through school etc, we shouldn’t wait around and expect to reap from it. God is the rewarder. PLANT THE TREE (HELP) AND DETACH!!!! That’s where the dignity lies. That’s where the blessing is guaranteed. That is where the legacy is established. As human beings, it is only human and subconsciously expected, to reap where we have sown and to be hurt when there is no harvest, or if the the harvest is evil, but when you walk away and wipe the slate clean, you have no expectations and that way, it’s difficult for you to get hurt. By God’s grace I helped a young lady from a challenged background to get a really good job (some old relationships paid off) recently and she was so appreciative that I actually started getting embarrassed. In my mind, I was like “Please don’t use your thank you to cancel out my heavenly blessing.” But I would be lying if I said my human mind didn’t enjoy the acknowledgement and appreciation. A lot of us have been hurt by people we helped in the past and that has made us reluctant to plant another tree. Believe me, the pain is less when you have no expectations, that way, looking forward to planting another tree is just going to be second nature. The reward that matters is incomparable to the paltry shade that your planted tree can provide you. I speak to myself also when I sound it once more…….PLANT A TREE (HELP A PERSON) AND DETACH!!! Share on: WhatsApp Post Views: 408

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What Baggage Do You Carry?

What baggages do you carry?

WRITEEN BY SAMUEL IJILUSI THE BAGGAGE Everyone gets motivated by one thing or the other. I’ve come to realize that there are words or phrases that we either hear or read that hits our mind and causes us to react with physical gesticulation or autonomic reaction. Of course the most common is “Hmmmmmmm!!!”. Few weeks ago during my lunch period at work, I continued with this book written by Mrs.Tokunbo Fasoro that has been chapter-sized to different nuggets. I got to this particular nugget and I found my “Hmmmm!!!” moment. It was about baggage and she illustrated with a story about a footballer who became ineffective on the field of play due to alcoholism. Thereafter, I said to myself, “Samuel, deal with your baggage”. Every one might “Hmmm!” at some words they hear or read and yet do nothing about it, but as for me, it was a turning point. Baggage is simply weight that has no use but one still go around with them. There are numerous and countless baggage items every person carries around in life. The king hit from this book unveiled my eyes to see my baggage. Listed are some of the baggage’s that need to be ditched: Low self-esteem : I have heard many times that we are unique despite being millions on earth, but the feeling I get when in gatherings of high class individuals, is like the entire wind in the surroundings have been directed towards my feet. I’d be walking as though I might fall soon,  funny right? That is low self-esteem baggage and it is accompanied with shallow thoughts, fear and isolation. Confidence is more attractive than fright. I dealt with this by re-engineering my thoughts and believing more in myself. Identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself and dress the way you want to be addressed. Non-constructive relationships: Mrs. Fasoro said, “He who has your ears has your head”. This struck me. I realized, I couldn’t rise beyond the level of my company. I was intentional about this. Recruit who you spend more of my time with and note this, the way they think and speak will rub off on you. You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Your association will influence the result you get in life, select them carefully. Poor time utilization: Time is an asset and it’s the greatest resource. You have to be able to control how you spend your time because you are the boss of your time.  I spent time arguing over football stars, but, trying to win an argument consumes my time and energy…….Guess what? You don’t get paid. You have to highlight unprofitable activities on your schedule and trash them. Replace with new ones, such as, reading, thinking etc. It’s possible to learn every hour of the day. Spend time on social media platforms you can learn from instead of chatting all day. You can be the master of your own time, it’s your choice to either waste it or invest it. Emotional baggage: Happiness and sadness are attached to our emotions and they have a role to play when it comes to pursuing our dreams. I had an interview with a popular bank sometime ago and I got to the final level of the interview. I had been in the process for a week, and just a simple question from the head of HR denied me the job, I was so hurt not for days,  but months. This feeling of failure is a kind of emotional baggage. Lost opportunity doesn’t mean it’s the last opportunity. Don’t be derailed by a great chance you missed to achieve your goal. Don’t live in the hurt of the past in the present, forgive yourself, set a new goal and move ahead. Many people might have read about baggage in her book; ‘Walking your way into career success.’ It hit me like a rock and I knew all I had to shed off in my life are these heaps of baggage. Let me pluralize it myself, ‘baggages’. To get to the place of your dream, you must deal with the baggage.   Share on: WhatsApp Post Views: 93

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Road To Success: Who do you associate with?

Tokunbo Fasoro

Road To Success I remember growing up, I always had horrible things to say about myself; I was the ugliest girl in my class, my nails looked horrible, I even lied that I was an Igbo girl forgetting my name was Tokunbo – A Yoruba name (somehow, I thought there was more dignity in being Igbo). I would want to bleach/tone my skin because I felt that maybe if I was lighter, I would be prettier. Of course I got bullied a lot, because I felt all my friends were better than me and it was a privilege to be counted as one of their friends. I remember getting myself a boyfriend all because I wanted to ‘Feel Among’…….. that’s the word! Nothing serious, I wouldn’t even communicate with him because I felt it was a privilege that someone thought I was attractive enough to be dated. I would barely even say a word around him.The point for me still remained the fact that I; the ugly ducking had a boyfriend. Well… it lasted only a couple of weeks, I overheard someone say that my boyfriend couldn’t stand my dull attitude and so the relationship was over. This inferiority complex continued through my time in the University and finally my service year. Who do you associate with? I keep thanking God for making sure I was posted to platoon 2. I’m sure even God was tired of my dull attitude and said “Enough is enough!!” (LOL!!!). In that platoon, I met a young lady; who unknown to me had seen more in me than I saw in myself. She would always shout and scream at me whenever I said something negative about myself. She would tell me to shut up and then begin to tell me how much greatness I had in me, how I could actually become who I wanted to be. She made me believe that I could become great in the future. Imagine being stuck with that kind of person for 3 weeks, your life will definitely change! There in NYSC camp, I set a 10 year goal and I achieved it in 9 years. WOW… how my life had changed, and with the help of God, I have been able to inspire people, impact lives, help people find jobs through the BI Empowerment platform, mentor young ladies who had similar issues growing up, as well as help young people become successful in their personal and professional lives. The crux of the matter is “Who do you associate with?” You have three (3) weeks of camp, one (1) year to serve, career seminars, conferences, training programs etc You have an opportunity to network with new people, to meet with some amazing people that can inspire you to greatness or push you out of your comfort zone. You might meet that person who will encourage you to take that big leap unto your road to success and lead you to make an impact; adding value to someone’s life. The question is “Who do you associate with?” Written by Tokunbo Fasoro BIEmpowerment Share on: WhatsApp Post Views: 29

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GET READY – Opeyemi Komolafe

Get Ready

GET READY!!!! A very popular saying is “When opportunity meets preparation, success is inevitable.” That saying is so true!! You complain about how you can’t get a break to show your skills or an opportunity to show a prospective employer/investor how invaluable you or your idea is, yet, when you get that chance, the amazing break you envision disappears like smoke in the wind. Why did that happen? I have a possible explanation ……….. It could be that when that opportunity came, you were required to display a certain skill, showcase knowledge in a certain area, possess a competence etc which you lacked, consequently you appeared not to be quite ready to handle that responsibility. Dear readers, even the most successful individual still has a little project he/she is working on which needs some level of approval. While waiting for that big opportunity, why not invest in yourself? Spend time acquiring different skills, reading about new things, doing short courses etc, basically investing in yourself, so that when that opportunity presents itself, it will find you competent, knowledgeable and well aware of how to move from point A through to point Z. Believe me, if you are feeling your way, unsure and faltering, your investors will find out and a competent recruitment team can tell. No one will trust his business to someone who comes across as unprepared or not competent to handle the responsibilities of the new position/business. Learning point for today…….. while waiting, get ready so that when your big opportunity comes it will meet you ready to run. Share on: WhatsApp Post Views: 81

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